Dating Someone With Genital Herpes - Help Staying Safe and Coping

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(Free-Press-Release.com) November 20, 2011 -- I am dating someone who does. I've known her for over 2 years, and therefore I think it makes this harder on me - we really know each other well and I love the hell out of her.

However, this whole thing freaks me out. I've been in relationships where I 'loved' the person and it didn't work out, and I'm afraid of the consequences of contracting herpes will have on me should this relationship not work out.

We use condoms every time we have sex, and after having sex for over 2 months, I got tested and the results came back negative.

She takes Valtrex once a day, and says that ever since taking it she's never had a breakout.


Still, I freak every now and then about it. Every time I have an ingrown hair "down there" or a bump or a red spot I freak out and can't sleep and just panic. It feels like a roller coaster.

If I could spin a magic 8 ball and know that this relationship would last forever, then I wouldn't give a damn about herpes. It is weird but the disease itself doesn't scare me - it's the stigma and social implications of it. I worry about what people will think if I had it and wanted to start dating them. I worry how people would look at me, and if they would see me as "dirty."

I suppose my ultimate question is this, does anyone here have experience with a long term relationship with one partner having genital herpes and one not having it?

Like I said, we use condoms, don't practice sex when there is an outbreak (although to be honest, I worry about whether she truly knows about "symptoms" - she has very sensitive skin). As I've said before, she says ever since being on Valtrex she hasn't had an outbreak.

I'm thinking of "upping" the safe sex and using dental dams with condoms, but I don't know if this would be weird or overkill.

She knows this bothers me, and I'm trying to work through it, but it is really hard and I would appreciate anyone's feedback.

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