Fundraising4change Ltd how to live each day not just let it pass you by!

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(Free-Press-Release.com) February 23, 2012 -- I figured the best way to get an honest response was to be really upfront and straight forward, and so, after the meeting had finished I blatantly just asked “How are you doing it?” obviously she looked a little bit bewildered and puzzled, I thought I had better elaborate, and went on to share that when I was in her vicinity I felt better and needed to know was this genuine or just a facade, seriously how are you so vibrant and full of life.

Surprisingly she didn’t head for the hills running, thinking I was a crazy stalker but took my question seriously, explaining that she hadn’t always felt like she did now, in fact whilst studying at university, she didn’t like herself very much, and recalls being rude, selfish emotionally, arrogant, self centred, judgemental and highly critical of others and really obnoxious, she believes this was down to her own insecurities, a lack of self esteem, she went on to explain she didn’t like herself, and thus projected how she felt onto others, “I was dissatisfied with myself and so dissatisfied with others”..

The Managing Director of fundraising4change told me how she had to make the decision to change and work on becoming a better person, she didn’t like who she was a new that it would only get progressively worse. That old saying “Misery Likes Company” was indeed a lie, she explained how lonely she had become as a result of her behaviour. In truth I was shocked, I couldn’t believe that this confident fun young woman could possibly have been this person she was describing, I had convinced myself that she must have been born this way and come from a family of millionaires living in the mountains.
The Managing Director of fundraising4change went on to shatter my illusions by reassuring me that she wasn’t perfect but that she is certainly a lot happier with who she is today, but that she hasn’t achieved her ideal just yet, because there is so much to work on, she also said that becoming a better person is an ongoing process that there was never really an end point, and as soon as you stop learning you stop progressing.

I asked Fundraising4change’s Managing director to share her top tips at becoming the person you want to be and not settling for just being some person. Below are some of the key principles she holds value to.


Work on your negative traits. Are there any traits you dislike about yourself? Some traits which I didn’t like about myself in the past include being self-centered, arrogance, selfishness, critical, harshness, hardness, etc. Identify them, then work on them one at a go. It can be challenging to try to overhaul your character at one go. On the other hand, if you work on addressing 1 negative trait at a time, it’s a lot more manageable and achievable.

Identify your ideal persona. What’s your ideal self like? Picture him/her in your mind, then write down all the traits of your ideal persona. Then, start living true to your ideal self.
Find a role model. Having a role model gives us a concrete image of who we want to become.
Be a role model. The best way to be a better person is to be a role model to others. How can you be an inspirational guide to others? Live by example. In being a role model, remember it’s not about making yourself into someone you’re not
Commit yourself to growth (Be Growth-oriented). The more you grow the better you become

. Be a better employee in your company (if you work for someone). Often times, I hear people complain about how their companies are not giving them enough benefits/wages/support/etc. While this may be true, think about how you can be a better employee instead. Check if there’s anything more you can do for your manager. See if there are any new projects you can take on. See how you can improve your current performance.
Be a better manager/leader (if you’re managing others). Many people leave their jobs because they’re unhappy with their managers. How well you manage your employees can dramatically affect their motivation levels and their performance. Put their needs before yours and bring the best out of them.
Be a better member of your community. What communities are you a part of? Say, interest groups? Recreational clubs? How can you be a more active part of the communities?

Be a better human to others. How can you treat the fellow humans around you better? Start treating them this way.
Be a better being in this world. How can you make the world a better place? Start doing that today.
Be Able. Equip yourself with skills. Your skills are like the tools in your toolbox. The more skills you have, the more able you become.
Learn something new. There are always new things to learn, no matter how much you already know. The more you learn the better you become

Hone your current skills. With your current skills, strengthen them. You can never be too good at a skill – there’s always room to improve. Even the best people in their fields, such as Tiger Woods (Golf), Michael Jordan (Basketball), and Beethoven (Pianist) never stopped honing their craft.
Be Accepting of differences – be it different people, different thinking, different lifestyles, different cultures. For they add variety and colour into our lives. If everyone is the same, life will be bland – monotonous, even.
Be Adaptable / Flexible / Versatile. Have your goals and plans, but be able to change them accordingly when the situation calls for it. Rigidity is a sign of weakness, while adaptability makes you so much more powerful.
Be Adventurous.

Step out of your comfort zone. Are you sticking to the same routines and hiding behind a safety net? Step out and do something you’ve never done before. It’ll broaden your mind and make you a better person.

Travel. Travelling broadens perspectives and widens horizons

Be Altruistic.
Always have the best intentions for others. Go for the highest good in everything you do, every decision you make, every path you take, every thought you have.

Volunteer (for a cause you believe in). Not everything has to be measured in money. With volunteer work, you may be giving your labour for free, but this is time spent in good stead. Don’t underestimate the kind of difference you can make in others’ lives with just a few hours of work.

Save the environment. Our world is being wasted away, day after day, with the harm the society at large is inflicting on it. What can you do to protect our home?
Be Assertive. Stand up for your rights and things you believe in.
Be Attentive. When someone is talking, give him/her your full attention. Don’t busy yourself with something else; that’s just rude and inconsiderate.
Be Bold. Life is an adventure – don’t live it in fear, Boldly pursue your dreams. Boldly act on your instincts. Boldly create the life you’ve always wanted.

Be Candid. Be frank, be outspoken, and be earnest. Say what’s on your mind – Don’t feel the need to censor your words because you’re afraid of what others think. Be true to yourself. (But not at the expense of others’ feelings, of course
Be Caring.
Show concern. There’s no need to wait for a cry for help before showing your care and concern. You can do it right away, right now, to those around you. Even if there’s nothing wrong, it’ll warm the hearts of others to know that you cared.
Call your friends. Are there any friends you’ve not contacted for a while? Call them today and check on how they’re doing. They may not show it, but they’ll be happy that you called – because it showed you cared.

Be Coachable. There’s always something we can learn from everyone, no matter his/her age, background or area of expertise. Don’t close off on opportunities to learn just because you think you know enough. Open your mind and let every encounter be a learning lesson. The moment you close yourself off is the point where you stop learning.
Find a mentor. A mentor guides you to become greater than you can be by yourself. You should only get a mentor if (a) the person has something to teach you (b) your personalities gel with each other.
Be Committed… to your goals and dreams. If you’ve set a goal, go all out and achieve it. If you’ve laid down a plan, stick to it all through the way. Don’t waver, for that’s not in you to do so.

Be Compassionate / Kind. Always look out for opportunities where you can help others. Don’t get caught up in your own space – instead, look outwards and see if there’s anything you can do for others. Even the simplest things, like helping someone carry his/her belongings, is very much appreciated by others.
Be Confident… in who you are and what you do. There’s no reason not to be.
Be Conscientious / Meticulous. Are you attentive to everything you do? Such a quality is rare, but so precious. Conscientious people put their heart and soul to what they do; consequently they do a complete and thorough job in whatever they do. You’ll naturally be a valuable asset to whichever organization or team you’re a part of.

Be Considerate / Thoughtful. Make a habit to consider others in your decisions and actions, for they affect other people. Make sure no one is negatively affected before you proceed with your plans.
Be Dependable. Be there for others when they need you. Always check if there’s anything you can do for your friends. If they call you, make time out for them. If they email you, take the time to respond. You never know when it’s someone in pain and reaching out for help.
Be Empathetic. Empathy is the key to successful relationships. Learn to see things from others’ perspective. It’ll let you understand people better, resolve conflicts, and develop meaningful connections.

Be Encouraging. No one likes a wet blanket. Be encouraging when your friends share their problems with you. Be supportive when they tell you about their goals.
Be Enthusiastic. Life is too beautiful to live dread and boredom. Embrace every day with joy and love. Start every day on a fresh new start! Approach every situation with excitement! And bring this energy to everything you do and everyone

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