When we talk about forgiving people we harmed before we found recovery, we often neglect to recognize one person that is very important too”ourselves.
When we talk about forgiving people we harmed before we found recovery, we often neglect to recognize one person that is very important too”ourselves. But understanding how important we are isn't always easy. Talking negatively about ourselves simply makes it difficult to prevent the ongoing guilt and self-hatred.
Let's think about what you did and how it affected others. You can fill in details, of course, but I'm guessing you'll say that you were a bad parent, a bad spouse or boy/girlfriend, a bad worker, a bad friend. You cared more about yourself than anyone else. Am I close? If any of this hits home, then it's time to stop. No, I really mean it. You can't undo what was done, good or bad. You can only live today, and dwelling on the wrongs of yesterday will keep you from seeing the beauty in today, and the promise of a better tomorrow.
Talking about what you have done in life is a great place to start. You weren't always an addict, and you certainly did some wonderful things for others. It might be something simple, like opening the door for someone, or helping to pick up papers when a stranger has dropped them. Maybe you spoke to someone about your addiction and recovery, and it made a difference in their lives”however small of a difference it could be.
The more you focus on the negative, the more negative you become. Your self-hatred festers and, like an infection, spreads. You become a person nobody wants to be near, confirming your feelings of being a bad person. But the truth is that many people probably want to be your friend, they just don't want the negativity.
Starting today, make a list of everything you do that is a good thing. Are you making sure there is milk in the fridge for your child? That's a good thing. Taking the dog for a walk. Another. You get the picture. It doesn't have to be big things to be important, just good things.
The more positive you are about your life, the more positive it will be, and the happier you'll find yourself. Just as negativity is a poison (as I stated earlier) to the mind and soul, œpositivity is a cure. The more positive you are, the better the chances that things around you will go well.
Tomorrow is a new day. Sleep well, think about all the good you can do, and then start doing it in the morning. By afternoon, you'll feel a whole lot better. You have the power to be happy. Use it.
Family and Friends of Addicts”please remember”you can't force an individual deal with an addiction problem. But you can offer support and arrange an intervention for addiction treatment. Reach out to us. Recovery from addiction is just a click or a phone call away. For more information on how to arrange an intervention for your loved one, contact us at:
Florida Center for Recovery “ Addiction Treatment Center: 1-800-960-5041
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