JOHN AHLF AN AMERICAN FATHER SPEAKS OUT ABOUT HIS RIGHTS TO HIS DAUGHTERS.

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(Free-Press-Release.com) January 15, 2010 -- Still in today’s society even with all the facts pointing to it being best for a child to be with both parents equally the courts are still awarding mothers more rights to a child than the child’s father.

I chose a case in Muscatine County Iowa to take a closer look at due to the fact that this is one of the first cases heard after new laws came out regarding father’s rights to joint shared custody. It shows the bias in America still today against fathers.

I sat down with John Ahlf today and talked with him about how his rights to his two minor daughters have been stripped away. I wanted to find out how he felt and the steps John felt the courts need to take in order to make it an equal playing field for fathers and their children.

Here is what John Ahlf had to say about a fathers love for his child and the importance of a father to his child.

Q: “How many children do you have?”

A: “I have five children.”

Q: “How many of your children live with you?”

A: “My three sons live with me and my two daughters live with their mom.”

Q: “How do you feel about not having equal time and rights to your daughters?”

A: “Hurt because my separation with their mother should not have separated me from them like it has. I am frustrated because as a father you feel powerless sometimes to fix it.”

Q: “What have you learned in regards to your importance to your child’s life?”

A: “In seeing myself not spend as much time with them now, I have noticed them lacking at times in confidence and assurance of themselves. So I have learned that I as a father play a central role in them defining who they are as a woman and their self image. That I am not expendable I am necessary.”

Q: “Do you feel that one judge should be able to decide what is best for a child?”

A: “No I don’t. I believe that a child’s future should be decided by both parents and a panel of qualified individuals through a mediation process not through a court room such as the state of Iowa is now recognizing.”

Q: “If you could help other fathers out there in a similar situation or going through a custody battle right now, what piece of advice would you give them?”

A: “Be strong and determined as your children’s future depends on it. Do your homework, there are groups out there that will help you with your rights, such as FATHERS’ FOR EQUAL RIGHTS . Realize you are at a disadvantage and therefore you will have to make sure everything is done that much better for your children’s sake. Be responsible let there be no doubt you are not one of those “dead beat dads”.”

Q: “In your case your ex wife Lisa accused you of being abusive and you had witness that in fact stated that you were not. How does it make you feel to know that so many women use that as a way to get an upper hand in a custody battle?”

A: “I think it is despicable. For someone to go to those lengths out of spite or just plain vindictiveness is wrong. The ones hurt most by it are the children. This isn’t a game that you do whatever it takes to win we are talking about lives and what is best for them. I would also say there are cases where women and men have been abused that wrongs them as well and lessens the devastating treatment that they had.”

Q: “Why is your input in your children’s life so important to you as a father?”

A: “For one thing it is my duty as defined by my role in God’s Word. Also I know what a huge impact and benefit I can be to helping to shape them as my parents were to me. There is no greater reward than being there for each other.”

Q: “What are your hopes and dreams for the future with you relationship with your children.”

A: “My hope is that the children are not in the middle. That their mother will put them first above any feeling she has about me, by doing so the children’s wishes will be respected in relation to seeing and being with us both. Us as parents should never stand in the way of that.”

Q: “Do you believe that there will come a time when fathers’ rights will not be denied to him and he will always be granted an equal say in America?”

A: “Yes I do I believe the court systems over the years are getting wise to the tactics of some women used in the court room to get an upper hand and second the courts have seen what happens when fathers roles are discounted. I firmly believe one day things will be made equal. I do. The court decisions have not yet caught up with the law. The law is clear courts decisions have not caught up with it yet.”

As you can see John Ahlf is very dedicated to the cause for equal rights. John’s love of his children does not differ from the love of a mother. Fathers are just as important to a child’s life as mothers. All parents should put aside their personal feelings for the sake of their children. If we as parents take into consideration what our child needs and what their feelings are we would see that they love both of their parents equally. We would also see that children need both of their parents equally.

All Americans should stand up for the fights of our children and demand children’s rights to have both parents equally are met. Who are we as adults or even a parent to take that right away from children. Please everyone take heed that children who grow up without their fathers are in trouble and grow up feeling lost. To all of the mothers out there, who are keeping children from their father on an equal basis shame on you. It is women like you who have caused men to become dead beats. They feel defeated and unimportant. We as women need to stand up and fight for our children’s and every child’s right to be with their father equally across the board.

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