In this week's AskDrLove radio show, Dr. Jamie Turndorf will be discussing the bullying epidemic in our society. Joining Dr. Turndorf will be Jef Gazley, LMFT, who will help shed light on the relationship between family dysfunction and bullying.
First, Dr. Turnorf explains that those who bully were themselves bullied as children. Because the bullied child is too frightened to share his/her scared, weak, helpless and angry feelings with his/her abuser, the pain gets shoved under the emotional rug. But since these feelings can't be kept down forever, the bullied child ends up releasing his/her pain by depositing it onto others. Bullied children dump their pent up pain on weaker siblings or schoolmates. And, as adults, these same victims dump their pain onto their helpless children or spouses.
Dr. Turndorf also reveals that in distressed intimate relationships, scapegoating has the effect of creating a unified front against the enemy. By joining forces against a child, partners unconsciously attempt to cement their fraying bond at a child's expense.
The ultimate solution to end the epidemic of bullying is for all of us to have the strength to take ownership of our feelings of weakness, hurt, sadness and anger, and work them through, rather than dump our pain onto others.
Hosted on TalkZone.com every Tuesday at 1pm EST, Ask Dr. Love is a live one hour Internet radio talk show focusing on love and relationships. Listeners can also call-in to the show and ask Dr. Turndorf for advice on any of their personal issues and get heartfelt yet professional advice. Archived shows are available on TalkZone.com, BlogTalkradio.com, AskDrLove.com, YouTube, and iTunes.
Dr. Jamie Turndorf is a popular relationship expert and couples therapist, author, and radio show host known to millions around the world as the creator of AskDrLove.com, the Web's first free relationship advice site originally launched in 1996. AskDrLove.com now offers thousands of advice articles on every imaginable relationship, marriage, dating, or sex advice question. You can follow Dr. Turndorf on Facebook and on Twitter @askdrlove.
Jef Gazley, LMFT, founder of the popular Website AskTheInternetTherapist.com, is a practising counseler and hypnotherapist specializing in marriage, dysfunctional families, and substance abuse.
Anyone interested in finding out more about the causes of and cures for bullying in our society should be sure to listen and even call in to this show.