œIt was only years later that I realized I had become addicted to the pain”the depression, the self-pity, the misery. It was the only thread I had left and I was afraid to let it go. The idea of ...
œIt was only years later that I realized I had become addicted to the pain”the depression, the self-pity, the misery. It was the only thread I had left and I was afraid to let it go. The idea of happiness made me nervous. These are the words that became the starting point for Michelle Lisa Anderson, author of a new self-help book aimed at women who love men who abuse substances, to discover her path to healing. œLove Over Addiction: A Guide to Feeling Happiness, Peace and Hope While Loving a Man who Suffers with Substance Abuse Or Drinks Too Much, addresses codependency with answers to 25 questions about what to do when the man they love is stuck in addiction, and much more.
Based on her life married to a substance addict and alcoholic, she writes with the experience of a person who is hopeful she can save others the pain she suffered herself.
Lisa watched her bank account empty; she watched as her husband drank himself to sleep every night. She watched as her three children suffered his addiction. She withstood his beatings. When she realized the only way for her to have a life wasn't to watch him go to dozens of AA meetings and therapy sessions, or continue to spend tens of thousands of dollars on rehabs, she took control over her own life. And when she took of her life, she began to see what she had done to herself and her children over the many years of self-abuse.
Ms. Anderson isn't alone. There are countless women who are in love with the chaos, pain, depression, and attention that destroy their lives. Women who yearn for love so deeply that they will do anything to have it, even if it only exists in their own mind. Until you understand why you are not getting help for yourself, you won't bother to seek a solution. Maybe the journey of Ms. Anderson will help you find that understanding.
Women who blame themselves for their husband's drinking or drugging are no different than the parent that blames themselves for the drugs their teenager takes. People make choices in life, and using a mind-altering substance, whether drugs or alcohol, is a choice. But this isn't about being addicted to drugs or alcohol, it's about being addicted to another person in your life, to someone who cares more about themselves than they do for you. We often call these people œusers. They take the literal life out of a person in order to satisfy their own narcissistic needs. And as long as they are allowed to do it, they will.
There are many kinds of addictions. Drugs and alcohol only scratch the surface. And because they are common, we have the ability to target them. But when you're addicted to relationships and chaos, few understand it. Read the book, and decide if it sounds familiar. If so, you have already taken the first step to healing. Don't stop. You can be a better you. All you need is to want it to be better.
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